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Last week Quinton and I celebrated our 10 year anniversary!  It seems like it all happened in a blink of an eye.  I remember envisioning and writing down my dreams for marriage all in my journal before it ever happened. 

After being divorced I knew it was going to take something entirely different if I were to marry again.  I had modeled what I had seen and dreamed about for marriage, but that alone had not been enough.  Despite the terrible statistics for marriage and the limited number of great marriages around me, I still believed that something else was possible.  I also knew it would require me being and thinking about things in a whole new way.

Things shifted from the very beginning when I met Quinton.  I think we both did EVERYTHING different for the sake of creating something we'd never seen before.  I will never forget after we became engaged - others would say “oh just wait, that will wear off”, or "that won’t last", or "oh look how in love they are, but just wait".  I remember feeling like some BIG MONSTER was going to come in and snatch away all the bliss and love.  Observing this is what actually inspired us to do everything in our power to protect what we had created together.

The love and bliss doesn’t go away…it just gets covered up by day to day life stuff.

From that day forward it has been our commitment to keep things clean.  We call it “sweeping” our marriage.  Just like the kitchen requires a constant sweeping, so does marriage.  It’s about clearing away the little things that build up in a day and making sure they get handled.  Sweeping prevents the big blow ups.  Without sweeping, the dust builds and builds and eventually there’s so much you can no longer see why you ever came together in the first place.   With constant sweeping, it becomes easier to access the love and bliss.  The practice itself requires commitment, but the rewards FAR outweigh the effort.  And, with practice, it just becomes part of your relationship. 

I never thought it was possible to fall in love over and over again in marriage.  Now, I absolutely know it to be true and realize that it is up to us to make it happen.  We’ve got the ups and downs just like everyone, but the sweeping keeps us on the same page and clears the way to fall in love over and over again.

I'd love to hear your thoughts?  Do you "sweep"?  Interested in having a conversation about how to sweep?  Email me.

I am off the charts excited to tell you that beginning on Feb. 17th, I am
co-coaching The Frame of Mind Relationship Course with Dave Gorham and YOU are invited to take part.  This is going to be a phenomenal experience – one where the possibilities are truly endless and life altering.  What I know about Frame of Mind Coaching is that while you may go in wanting to improve your relationship - it will spill over and impact all areas of your life!  If you are interested in finding out more about it send me an email.  Hesitant or unsure?  Take the FOM Relationship Assessment!  Kim, Presiden of FOM and her husband are doing a free teleseminar tomorrow too!  You must check it out!


 


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